To work or not to work is a question many parents face, and each decision is based on a unique set of circumstances. Writer and mom, Jasmine Hewitt, talks about why she chose to stay home and how her days are spent as a stay at home mom (SAHM).
I’ve been a SAHM since our son was born. We felt he needed me a lot more than a job or career would (at least for the first few years). Working and paying for childcare or remaining at home, not only as a a mother, but also running a household, we found I ultimately make more money here at home.
Days at home
Each day varies as far as activities, but we usually start early. Breakfast is made and while my husband enjoys his, I can usually get Boopie (her son) to gobble down some fruits and grain snacks pretty easily.
I start daily chores with the baby contained in the pack n’ play. Once Dad leaves, and depending on how fussy the baby decides to be, I’m usually done (with chores) by 10am.
Is it very monotonous? Yes. Would I trade it? Never.–Jasmine Hewitt
We spend most of our day playing, learning, working on our walking skills. I get to escape with my phone as he abandons me for stuffed animals (and the very recent) toy trucks. If the daily routine becomes so boring I want to scream-we get out.
We got to the park, or just walk around the block. We visit friends and relatives. We shop (which he LOVES doing, the store is his favorite place. Not for stuff, but people).
Naptime is when I write – my ultimate escape from the monotony of the day.
Doing it together
Once Dad comes home – I get my first real, and not incredibly short lived break of the day. Then I start dinner, run a dishwasher once more, and then wrestle Boopie into a highchair so we can all eat together.
We have always done mealtimes simultaneously, even though it’s hard to coordinate with a baby-especially when they want to get at everything-but I feel like it’s important to start those family activities early. We both help bathe the baby, dress him for bed, read bedtime stories, and rock him to sleep. It’s our time together to spend as a family, and wind down for sleep. My husband and I can catch up on how each other’s day went, plan for the weekend, and spend time with our son, together.
Benefits of Being a SAHM
So many moms miss out on the early months, and then years, because they have to go back to work. We are lucky in that we are stable enough that I can spend all my time with my son, and it’s important for his development that I do that.
Do I miss working– my little desk; important tasks; and adult interaction? Sure, but I think missing out on everything my son does in these early days would be harder to bear. I wouldn’t trade it for anything.
About Jasmine Hewitt
Jasmine a wife and stay at home mother of one who blogs when times allows it.
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